In this post, I will be taking you through what it means to dream about someone you love, and what it means to dream about someone you once loved.
Contents
- Dreaming about someone you love vs. dreaming about someone you once loved
- My story about dreaming about someone I once loved
- Conclusion
- Quote of The Blog
Dreaming about someone you love vs. dreaming about someone you once loved
Do you know what people say when you dream about someone you love?
“Your subconscious is trying to tell you that you should go and talk to this person, make a connection.” Because you are thinking about them — a lot.
Usually, when a particular someone is running through your mind, all you can think about is them, whether you realize it or not.
But what happens when you dream about someone you once loved? What does it mean? What’s the difference?
Dreaming about someone you love and they’re still in your life (meaning that both parties had just drifted a little because of school or work, and you guys just hadn’t had the time to catch up with each other) — it could simply mean that you just miss them after not hearing from them for a long time.
Or if this person is someone you see every day, it could mean that you just love them, a lot. And of course, you could always just talk to them or drop them a text.
On the other hand, dreaming about someone you once loved and they’re no longer in your life (meaning that both parties are no longer talking to each other perhaps because of something that happened), you cannot easily access them.
You can’t just drop them a message without feeling conflicted. You can’t just pop back into their lives and say, “Hey, it’s been a long time and I missed you. Let’s meet up” — knowing that both of you stopped talking for a reason.
You know that friendship/relationship ended because of something bad that happened, something that made you guys stop talking to each other, something that broke the bond between the both of you.
And you cannot text that person without having a million thoughts going through your mind telling you whether it’s a good idea or not.
Here’s my story about dreaming about someone I once loved.
A Little Backstory
I used to be great friends with this person, let’s call her “Blue”.
We were friends for about six years before our friendship ended.
The friendship between Blue and I was different from the others. We were always able to joke with each other, talk about things comfortably with each other, and go on adventures together that others wouldn’t.
It was one of my greatest friendships that made me feel alive. It felt like I was actually living my life — getting out of my comfort zone to look for more adventures and explore the world confidently because I knew — I had Blue with me.
In a way, I could say that Blue was always someone that made me want to become better.
Blue was someone I could always turn to whenever I needed a rant or just a listening ear.
Blue was someone I could confide in, someone I could trust, someone that made me happy.
Blue was there for me when I needed her.
Blue was there.
Blue was the best friend I could ever ask for.
Sadly, I don’t have Blue anymore.
Losing a great friendship could hurt you as much as a break-up. And yes, it hurts that much.
(Not going into the whole story behind why the friendship ended. Let’s save that for another time.)
When my friendship with Blue ended, it took almost all of me with it.
It felt like I lost half of myself.
For a period of time, I was very lost in life.
I wasn’t able to do anything, I wasn’t able to enjoy anything. I don’t enjoy activities without Blue. And with everything I do, I will always think about how much more fun I would have had if she were there with me.
Then, I tried to occupy myself with commitments to get away from those thoughts, to get away from the past that was holding me back, to get away from the thought of Blue.
The commitments worked. I got better. But whenever I came across anything that reminded me of Blue, I would start to miss that friendship again.
Nothing happened between us after things ended. No calls, no text – nothing. And I guess that’s fine because it was what I needed. (Though not what I actually wanted)
I still do miss Blue at times. Anywhere I go, anything I do, I would catch myself thinking about the amazing memories we had together when we were still friends.
But life goes on, and eventually, I had to move on.
Dreams
I am someone who doesn’t dream a lot, but when I do, most of them are just nightmares instead of dreams. When dreams are not enjoyable, I don’t remember them, unless they scare the crap out of me and leave me traumatized for a few days.
But when I do dream about something that’s nice — like dreaming about enjoying life with no worries or dreaming about going on a vacation (or an outing) with the most amazing people in the world — things are different.
I wouldn’t want to wake up from the dream. I want to keep on dreaming.
I’m sure you had that kind of experience too, you know, when you enjoy something so much that you don’t want it to end? Yeah, that.
My Dream
Ever since our friendship ended, I didn’t have dreams about Blue at all, until recently.
Not sure why, but I was probably thinking about Blue at the back of my mind, just reminiscing the memories that we had.
To share briefly, the dreams were about Blue and I hanging out and doing things together – shopping, eating, chatting, the usual stuff — just like the good old times when we still had that friendship.
We were happy in the dream and everything was perfect.
But… it hurts too.
Because it was too perfect.
Realization
I woke up.
I was disappointed when I realized that everything wasn’t real, that everything about the dream was fake, that everything was just a dream.
I cried.
I cried realizing that it was all just a dream and that that friendship was over.
I cried realizing that there was nothing I could do.
Our paths crossed and diverged.
Now, Blue is just a stranger to me.
That’s life. People come and go.
Some friendships are lessons, some friendships are pastimes, and some friendships are lifelong.
Letting go, moving on
I may have dreamed about Blue, and it may be a sign from my subconscious to drop her a message and try to catch up with her — but I know I shouldn’t.
In my situation, that friendship between Blue and I needed to end because it was becoming too toxic. Things were falling apart and I was beginning to feel like the desperate one trying to make things work.
And I realized that I needed to draw a line between determination and desperation.
When I woke up, the only thing I thought about at that moment was — I should let go.
Let go.
I may have left that friendship behind me long ago, but Blue never really left me.
Just like bad things, good things come to an end too. Even friendships come to an end. And we just have to move on.
Pshh, “moving on” — is easier said than done.
Moving on is never easy, especially moving on from someone or something that made such a huge impact on me. It’s not that I don’t want to move on, it’s just a hard thing to do.
I could easily just make more friends to fill the void, to replace Blue, but deep down I know that they will never truly be able to replace Blue’s place in my heart. It was just never going to happen.
Blue’s impact was too huge. I will never be able to be as comfortable with anyone else just as with Blue.
But I will still move on. I have to.
And I will still remember Blue.
Because Blue once made me very happy. And that’s all it matters.
Conclusion
Dreaming about someone you once loved doesn’t mean you should have them back into your life. Things happen, people change. And sometimes dreaming about them or missing them doesn’t necessarily mean that you should go back to them.
It just means that you miss them, and they really made an impact in your life.
Feel the things you need to feel. Miss them, dream about them, think about them, write about them, talk about them. All these feelings are valid as a human. It’s okay to feel.
Personally, I find that dreaming about someone or constantly thinking about them means that we once genuinely loved them. We loved them with our whole heart, and now our heart just misses it. Our heart just misses the good times in life, the good things in life.
It’s not wrong to miss them.
We can always love people even from the farthest end of the universe. Even in silence. Missing them is just one of the ways to know that as humans — we loved.
Quote of The Blog
Before you leave, here’s a quote for you.
The hardest part of dreaming about someone you love, is waking up to see that person gone. You know it, it takes a second to say hello. It takes forever to say goodbye. Moving on is easy but what you leave behind is what makes it hard.
– Unknown